Catharsis

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How can I describe this week?

An eye-opener for a lot of reasons. It was beautiful in some moments and a bit sour at other times. I don’t know exactly what format is required for this week’s Dreem Challenge, so I’ll just let this run in whatever course it takes me.

Sometimes, it occurs to me, that it’s not so easy being good. It’s not so easy going out of your way to spread goodness around. I know you may say that if goodness was an innate quality you possessed, it wouldn’t be so hard to spread it. That it wouldn’t be so hard, letting the goodness you’ve always possessed reach everyone around you. I don’t doubt that.

But I’ve also come to understand that we are what we give others. That we’re all a cup. Whatever we experience, the challenges we face, the innate qualities that seek to triumph over the ugly, and everything in between. They all mix and fill our cup, so at the end of the day, whatever has triumphed, whatever life and fate and faith have brewed in our hearts, overflows. And that’s the energy we spread out to everyone.

It’s a daunting thought. To understand, that however good we perceive ourselves to be, the energy that overflows from our cups is unconscious, and most of the time we can’t even help it. It reaches out to people and some would gush at our kindness and warm-hearted nature, based on the end-product; the good energy that has overflowed. And others would frown and try to keep away, calling us toxic. People may even pick a fight with us. They feel traces of the toxic energy and are subtly responding to that.

This is becoming too esoteric for my liking, so I’ll try to match this up with my purpose for writing this.

So, my vibe(energy) as this week began wasn’t exactly positive. Far from it. I had a lot of things going on and I was stressed almost to the point of breakdown. So the first thought in my head when I saw the challenge for this week was to sigh. How could I give to others what I didn’t even have?

But then I remembered that this was why I made my Dreem teem comprise of the people it has.bBecause, more than anything, my emotions towards them have always been genuine and pure so spreading love the way I can would be easy.

And so I began the first day with a member of my Dreem teem. We talk regularly. Hive stuff, intellectual stuff, our lives and everything in between. And so, I let our conversations flow away from anything to do with the challenge. I doubt we mentioned it once.

I think one of the very underestimated things in life is the power of listening. The power of keeping whatever exciting thoughts or experiences you’d want to share and genuinely listening to people. Their dreams, their hopes, their fears and just being there for them by being that listening ear. I believe everyone deserves to be heard and so you give, and you love and you learn by that singular action.

The next day, I tried my hands on poetry. Jeez...it had been so long. Far too long since I wrote poetry. It was a beautiful experience for me. And what made it more beautiful was the fact that it was to someone I cared about. So, the emotions rushed like a gracefully flowing stream. Of course, I had to tweak it when I was done and refine it so that it would convey, if not all, at least half of the Positivity that was bursting at the seams of my heart at that moment.

I waited patiently for her response and when I got the customary 18-minute long voice note, I smiled so hard and plugged in my ear pods to listen. I didn’t expect anything much because the poem in itself was something I’d been meaning to write for her for a long time. But it would make anyone’s heart sing when your love is met with even more love.

Today, I reached out to my last ideel member. I hadn’t been a stellar friend these past few days so I reached out. Not to hash out whatever underlying issues they were. But to move on. To focus on the present. To love and appreciate our presence in each other’s lives. As a person who believes a lot in Words of Affirmation and Acts of Service, that’s the best way to show how deep my emotions run.

So, listening and talking. Giving my thoughts where needed. Being of service in whatever way was required, was the final straw to wash away the negativities that encompassed my week. I shook away the bad thoughts and just let myself experience the blessings of giving: time, resources, a smile...and everything in between.

Even though this is not a requirement, I’d like to add that I reached out to a few more people. Offline friends that had more or less shunned me because of my nonchalant and unresponsive attitude.

It didn’t turn out well.

I bore through the lash-outs. I won’t say I deserved it, or that I did. Frankly, it would have been surprising and unrealistic if I expected open arms after everything. But it was my way of just putting out there that we’re all going through one shitty experience or the other. But let’s always remember that we have people. I’ll try again another time, maybe.

But in the meantime, this is how my week has been. Mildly chaotic, and not exactly my best week. But an enlightening experience altogether.

Jhymi🖤


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I think those who really care about us, understand that we can't always be super positive and good. Cos they experience ot too. Being a human, means we get emotional and that's okay, as long as we are aware of our behaviour and that we take responsibility for our behaviour.
Community is super important. I couldn't life how I do, within my community behind me.
Sending you a hug xxxx

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I like to believe that when people criticize others for not being there, they are least put themselves in their place for a bit, you know. I'm learning every day to be more appreciative of the people around me.

Sorry for the late reply dearest friend. I hope your weekend is going wonderfully.🤗

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It is not always easy working with teams or been of service but with love and understand it will be very easy. I love the way you connect with the team is not everybody that will do that.

#dreemerforlife

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Thank you dear. We can only try to do what we can for those we love.🌺

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We all have different kind of unique personality and that is what makes us different from each other. I believe for anyone that genuinely cares about you and your feelings will be willing to accept you the way you are. We can't be perfect, we can only try.

I believe the little reaching out you have done this week must have been so demanding for you, doing something that you are not really used to can be awkward at first but hopefully it will be worth.

The reason why most people shy away from kindness or try not to show it, it is because they have been victimised by their act of kindness. The world is not exactly a peaceful place but regardless of the cruelty we face, we should not allow it cost us our humanity because it seems to be the only thing that differentiates humans from a wild beast.

You seem like a highly reserved person but to me I consider you to be a free spirited person or probably because I don't know you enough 😅.

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Yeah, a lot of people have been victimised by their kindness. Personally, it wouldn't change the fact that if you have a kind spirit, it would be there, no matter what.

And yeah, Maybe you don't know me enough. But yeah, I kind of keep to myself a lot. At the same time, I'd like to think that I'm pretty down to earth so that makes me a picture of both.

Sorry about the late reply dear. I hope you're doing well.

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Hmm.. I have learned something today, we are what we give out to others.

Truly, our gifts say so much about us, it's says even more when it is done wholeheartedly. You really had a busy week. Hope you get some rest during the weekend to relax your mind and brain.

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Exactly!
I'm having a busy weekend as well but I'll use a few days this holiday to relax my mind. Thank you so much @emreal. Glad you're doing well.🌺

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aw... look at this... I got you in my random 5 today on Dreemport 😍 hehe is that fortuitous or what??? I'm sorry you've had such a rough week Tess 😔I'm proud of you. You went out there and acknowledged that you could have been a better friend to some and you reached out to them. If they don't find value in that at this moment, that is on them. Perhaps your subconscious instincts may have been right all along (?) But yes, give it a week and try again... Thank you for checking in with me this week and for your heartfelt words of love and support. They were very moving. The first week of every month is always a very busy one for me at work and I find little to no time to get online. I work some late hours, fall asleep early some nights, and sleep weird hours for the first 5 working days of the month! Sorry it took a while to get back to you :-( You have a lovely heart; keep on dreeming, dreemer... and keep reaching for that crown !LUV !Hug !ALIVE

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!luv you as well Sam. I know how things have been for you. You're strong and you're kind and have the most wonderful heart. Yes, I'll try again in another week and I'll keep you posted on how it goes. I wish you a very beautiful week ahead, Mom. All my love to you.🌺🤗

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Honestly, being in control of our emotions is powerful. When we free ourselves from every form of negativity, we realise the beautiful things we neglected, those little things we thought were nothing.

I love how you are building your team with love and how you reached out to others outside this space in other for you to move on.

We can only focus on things within our control and worry less about the others outside our control circle.

When we realise this, we will experience a more peaceful and beautiful life.
Love you dear 🤗

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Thank you dear. I always try to keep in mind, no matter how hard it is, how important people are. The necessity of having the right people in our lives is underestimated.

Thank you so much for this very beautiful comment. And all my !luv to you as well.🤗

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It's really good, well done dear.

You're most welcome.

Thanks ❤️

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