Dreaming of Family and Fright

We see love come in many forms throughout our lives. Love can be a mother's soft and warm embrace between her children. A father can show love for his family through the countless hours he toils for their well-being and the time he spends with them when he gets home.

People can also display love more brutally. Parents could be strict with their children to teach them safety. Children could get grounded because they broke the rules of the household. These more complex lessons could result from family love meant to help their loved ones live long enough for the young to learn survival.

We all have our opinions on the matter. What's most important, however, is to realize that sometimes our actions may be on the extreme end. Hopefully, we can recognize this fact before it's too late.

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Unfortunately, sometimes trauma occurs from our lack of foresight. Maybe we should have said something before allowing a hiker to strip naked as she ventured into the forest. Perhaps a couple should have carried their cell phones with them before launching into a darkening forest.

There are some errors from which you may not recover

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The Parental Unit

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Family Discipline

There is an order expected within a family. Conventionally, one person financially supports the household while another maintains it. Both people work together to make the home function in an orderly manner. The orderliness of a household then supports further development within that family unit. If things are running smoothly, those family members can seek out other activities to grow as individuals.

It doesn't matter how the heads of the household identify themselves so long as things work along with their expectations. Insert children into that equation, and the more stable a family, the better the outcome for the children and parents. One common way to maintain stability within the home is to implement a system of rewards and punishments.

A child may receive a reward if they perform at or above a parent's expectations. If they perform below expectations, the parent may punish them. Like anything else in life, rewards and punishment can vary highly. For the most part, it works because everyone does it. In many scenarios, however, parents can take things to the extreme.

Extreme Rewards

I get it. You love your kids, and you want to give them the best that life offers. There are limits to this desire. Giving them everything they ask for inhibits their ability to seek out themselves. One result of over-rewarding is that your kid becomes spoiled.

One case of an extreme reward is giving your child a Lamborghini for their 16th birthday. Why? It's great that you can afford something like this car, but to give it to a child is pointless. It's a parenting fail on a level I hope to be able to afford one day. If I can even afford it, the last thing I'm going to give my child is a brand new car as their first vehicle. You might end up with a kid like the one below.

I couldn't get past the first couple of minutes.

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Daddy's Little Girl

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Undisciplined Behavior

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Kids can be unruly. My sons are about a year apart, with my oldest being 4-years-old. I don't think they intend to be intractable. They only recently arrived, so I see it as them adapting to things. Like everything else, they need to learn to survive this world.

So, if they misbehave, it's up to the parent, guardian, or the community to provide effective discipline. Many times, that's easier said than done. Depending upon your culture, there are many ways to help them adjust to what we expect of them.

In the case of the Tanooka family,
the parents chose their method.
It will haunt them to this day.

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Abandoned by Those You Love

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The Woods

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The Tanooka family spent their day like any other. They were together on an outing and enjoying the sun. Their son Yamato Tanooka enjoyed his time and explored the area for rocks. Having nothing much else to do, the young boy began picking up those rocks and tossing them around. He may have hit a car or two with the stones he was throwing in some instances. He may have come close to hitting some people.

Shocked at his behavior, Yamato's parents reprimanded his actions. Of course, the parents would be liable if the rocks damaged a vehicle or hurt someone. Children shouldn't act with such careless disregard. It is especially true when someone else may get the blame for your actions. Sometime after the reprimand, the parents decided to punish him a little further.

They left him alone along the road of a bear-infested forest.

Takayuki Tanooka and his wife decided to put their son in time-out. A time-out is a form of punishment where you would typically bring a child into a far corner of a room and sit them down for a certain period. The idea is to teach the child that they will be left alone as punishment when they misbehave. What time-out doesn't involve is leaving your child in a bear-infested forest.

After Yamato's parents left him on the road, he was terrified beyond belief. Where would he go? What would he do? It got cold, and he had no food. In Yamato's desperation, he began chasing after his parent's car in a desperate attempt to tell them he was sorry. However, during his frantic run, he became disoriented and lost in the woods where the people he loved abandoned him.

Lost in the Wilderness

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People say that time passes differently during periods of high stress. In Yamato's situation, nothing could be further from the truth. Once he came to terms with his situation, he began walking to try and find help. The longer he walked, the darker it got as the sun dipped below the horizon. Soon after, the temperature became freezing.

Seeking Help

Yamato's parents didn't try too far. According to one report, they drove a little over 500 meters away and then returned to where his parents left him. However, Yamato "disappeared."

Search and Rescue

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At first, Yamato's parents lied to police.

They realized their error. Leaving Yamato alone in a bear-infested forest was probably a bad idea. Yet, Yamato's misguided mom and dad realized their mistake and knew what they had to do.

Concerned about search and rescue operations delays, the father lied to police about how the boy got lost. Once the search was underway, Takayuki Tanooka told the police the truth. Yamato's parents were profoundly sorry and just wanted their boy home.

After 6 days of searching.
Everyone was losing hope.

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Discovering the Body

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Yamato kept walking after his parents left. He kept walking even after the sunset. Bears were active in the area, but Yamato knew he needed to get somewhere safe and fast. There's no doubt he was sorry for throwing rocks. If he had listened to his parents, he would be at home now with his family.

Hunger, thirst, and fear were his companions during this dark journey.

Hope, however, was on the horizon. Yamato reached a clearing that contained, among other things, military housing. He got inside and drank water from a faucet in the facility. Unfortunately, there was no food around, and there wasn't anything edible on the outside.

Yamato then decided to wait out for his fate. He reasoned that it would be best to stay where he was and hope for the best since someone might search for him. And he would undoubtedly wait until there were no other options.

Search and Rescue Failure

Search and Rescue teams had already scoured the area where Yamato hid. For some strange reason, they didn't initially find him. Yamato would wait six days within the barracks before someone discovered him. Upon discovery, the SAR team brought him to the hospital, where he fully recovered.

Yamato Tanooka spent six days alone within a military barracks without food. To survive, he spent his days patiently waiting and kept drinking from a dirty faucet.

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Lessons Learned

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Responsibilities

  1. Don't abandon children in a bear-infested forest.
  2. Don't be emotional when implementing discipline.

A Child's Innocence

A child's innocence is endearing and unforgettable. Yamato's father apologized to his son. Yamato told Takayuki that he was a good father and that he both forgave and loved him.

Police decided not to prosecute the parents.

Yamato Tanooka

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In Closing

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Today's story was difficult to write. Most of the articles I read about it were almost duplicates of each other. However, different reports in them provided the information I sought.

One example is the use of tracking dogs. For example, during the Search and Rescue (SAR) mission, only one article I found discussed a problem with SAR dogs used to track the child. When bringing the dogs to the area the parents abandoned them, the dogs wouldn't move. They wouldn't move because they had no scent to track. The likely cause was that the parents may have forgotten where they had abandoned their son.

For some reason, many news outlets felt this wasn't a report-worthy fact in this case.

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oh my gosh... that story about Yamato!!! It makes you wonder what goes through the minds of some people - thinking THAT is acceptable punishment for a child???

and you wonder why this little boy thinks its ok to just pick up rocks and throw them around - what example does he have before him??? that anything and everything is just acceptable to do! (like leave a child in a bear- infested forest)

and there is no way that they only drove 500 meters! If they had - and yelled his name - he would have CERTAINLY still been able to hear them - ESPECIALLY if he was running after their car in that direction!
I think they were just lying across the board. What terrible people!

and that video with the girl? lol I can't believe its true. for SO many reasons.

I mean their house was nice... but it wasn't a mansion! It was just a normal, average nice house. I don't know if middle class people can afford a lambo?? hahhaha but what do I know? LOl it just seemed very staged.

I couldn't watch the whole thing - but even when he first came to her at the counter - she seemed like she was in on something LOL like it was just set up for some views on youtube hahaha

but I HAVE seen some videos that are NOT staged with the most spoiled children on the planet LOL and they are just atrocious!!!

People are really really strange! hahahaha

and they raise strange children 😁

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The world is a strange place indeed. Police never filed charges against the parents. The parents forgot where they abandoned him and likely like about how far they actually traveled. I wondered if the boy was even throwing rocks. Reports are very vague about the oddities about the event.

Truth is certainly stranger than fiction. Parents take extremes of all kinds when it comes to their kids. Sometimes like Yamato the end result can be relieving and heart warming. Others like Jordan Turpin lived a life of horrors. Her ending may have a similar result, but what she lived through is too hard to realize.

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oh my gosh...not sure if I want to see the sadder video! why do people take these unnecessary risks with their children?!?!

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When you live in your own world you live by your own rules. Sometimes those rules are horrid.

Part of what I do IRL is to evaluate human performance errors. Those occur when someone operates outside of protocols. In most instances errors occur because someone assumes something to be okay and acts on their assumption rather than check the applicable procedure. What they do is also dependent on factors like stress at work or home and sleep.

At the Turpin household, the dad was a Lockheed Engineer. He knew WTF he was doing to the kids and so did the mom. There was no misunderstanding because they hid what was done to the kids for years. Fearing for her life, that girl escaped and brought the authorities to the rescue.

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what an interesting job!!!!!

and i still didn't watch the video - and still don't want to LOL

i'll just take your word on it that the dad was a piece of trash! sheesh...

so how in the world do you go to school for that job you have??? what was your major. I'm much more interested in that! hahahaha

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In higher risk jobs like military or commercial power production there are huge investments in analyzing human behavior and why it can go awry. At the power plant I work at you’re exposed to all sorts of training on compliance. Also, if you make a mistake you learn about the process first hand.

It all boils down to areas of risk management that few people concern themselves. I learned of risk management in the military, work and during my Masters. Almost a must have when anything can go wrong at work.

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when I was in University...I had plans to be a psychiatrist... I was on that path for 3 years until I realized I would have to give a lot of "mommy" time up to dedicate for my career. and I chose to not do that

I know a lot of moms can do both... (and now that my kids are grown I'm happily enjoying pursuing my own passions) but for me... being a great mom required 20 hours a day. hehehe

so... I changed my major to something less intense, (psychology) and graduated with a degree in that.

never regretted that decision.

your job sounds like something I would enjoy hehehe

I like analyzing- minds, problems, situations...etc! lol

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It has its ups and downs. I just finished a work period where I was on night shift 12+ hours per day for 1.5 months. I barely saw my family and that sucked a lot. Everyone wanted quick data analyses and reports for their work. It was a nonstop event but damn I got paid for it.

It gets scary too because so much is involved with what I report on.

You made the right decision for your career. I’m glad everything worked out for you. My wife just made a similar decision and left school to focus on her work with our boys, her parents, and herself most importantly.

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Oh, the video with the girl? Totally true. The parents are clearly off their rocker. If I had that cash just laying around I’d do a lot more than by a child an exotic car. Jesus.

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I thought lambos were like...a LOT of money. lol

maybe that's why she was upset? cuz it was an older model or something??? I have no idea. but I just assumed you had to live in a mansion in order to afford one hahahahaha

and yeah...I'm glad that I didn't watch the full thing and only skipped through it...cuz they were both super annoying...

the way she talked to him...

but also the way he talked to her??? as if she was just some.peer he has to please???

not good!

and wow...

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Older lambos can be more expensive than new ones. She’s totally spoiled and her parents are clearly just as bad. I will never understand rich people problems.

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i never want to understand their problems LOL

and someday, if i'm rich... please let me not have rich people problems!!!!! LOLOL

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